Dear Margar-etiquette,

I LOVE playing games—recreational and social sports, yard games with the neighbors, and board games with family and friends. But it seems like some people are taking these fun activities too seriously. People lie and cheat to win, seemingly at any cost, which makes it less fun. How can I bring more fun into my gaming activities?

Fun & Games

Dear Fun & Games,

My first thought? You may be playing with the wrong people.

My second thought? Let’s remind ourselves what play actually means. The Oxford Dictionary defines it as “to engage in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose.” In other words, the whole point is fun—not conquest.

Of course, a little healthy competition can spice up a game, but when winning becomes more important than connection, laughter, or good sportsmanship, the spirit of the game is lost.

Here are a few ways to bring joy and balance back to your gaming experiences:

1. Set the tone early. If you’re hosting or organizing the game, start with a lighthearted reminder: “We’re here for fun, not trophies!”
2. Play with like-minded people. Find fellow players who enjoy the game for its social value, not just the scoreboard. A few good sports can shift the whole vibe.
3. Model good behavior. Show grace when you win and humor when you lose. Your attitude might be contagious in the best way.
4. Don’t be afraid to hit pause. If someone’s behavior is consistently unsportsmanlike, it’s okay to speak up kindly or bow out and protect your own enjoyment.
5. Embrace the journey. Whether you win or lose, games give us a chance to bond, laugh, strategize, and sometimes be silly. Those are the real rewards.

And finally, remember: games don’t reveal who’s best—they reveal who’s fun to be around. So whether you’re rolling dice, tossing bean bags, or volleying a ball, bring the kind of energy that makes people want to play again.

Keep Smiling,
Margar-etiquette