In the modest, country home where I grew up, prejudices were not allowed.
Though there was a serious bias against what Daddy called āno accounts,ā men who laid up drunk and didnāt feed their families.
So, Daddy had a list, always, of about four or five women, with squalling kids and electric company cut-off notices, that he called weekly to make sure they had food and money for necessities.
āI shore do hate to ask but the teacherās startinā to get aggravated,ā said one. āMy girl needs a Blue Horse notebook for her schoolinā. Itās 89 cents.ā
āToo sorry to live,ā Mama opined about those men, then sheād cut back so Daddy could see after a dozen kids with worthless fathers.
That was the only prejudice we had in our household.
Boy, you didnāt want to get sideways with my Daddy about putting down people of another race, gender, or religion. Growing up, we never called anyone names that pertained to their culture or skin color. To this day ā and Tink often laughs about this ā I have virtually no knowledge of slang words. Watching a movie one night, someone called another a ād*goā and a fight broke out so I figured that wasnāt good.
āWhat does that mean?ā I asked Tink.
He swirled around in his chair and looked at me with curiosity. He tilted his head, saying, after a momentās thought, āYou really are so innocent, arenāt you?ā
āI donāt know what that word means,ā I replied, wondering how two four-year college degrees could let me down like this.
āItās a slur against Italians. Itās demeaning.ā He threw out three or four other demeaning names for people of ethnicity. Other than Appalachian poor, I knew none.
Tink shook his head in admiration. āHow do you grow up like that? Get to be your age and still not know such words?ā
āYou have Ralph Satterfield as your Daddy and the threat of his belt meeting your bottom.ā
If I heard my Daddy say it one time, I heard it a thousand, āThereās no big Iās and no little youās in Godās eyes. Weāre all this same.ā
I grew up on the tail end of civil rights riots and womenās liberation rallies. I was too young to understand but I was aware, by passing by the TV set when Walter Cronkite was on, that people in city streets with signs, yelling, was not a good thing.
But, back in our home on a little country road, I only knew what I was being taught, āBe kind to everyone and share what you have.ā
One night, when I was eight, my teacher called Mama. Teachers still did that back in those days.
The teacher explained that I had been giving my lunch money to a skinny little girl with matted, blonde hair, who lived in a tumbling down shack. Bless her. She was starved to death so, every day, I handed her my lunch money. She looked at me with such bone-deep gratitude.
Mama didnāt know because I had said nothing. I wasnāt praised or extolled. Daddy simply started giving me two lunch moneys and said, āSee that that little girl gets fed.ā
A few months ago, when attacks began against the Jews, I was stunned. I thought we, as a nation, were past antisemitism. Astonished, I am still.
āThe Jews are Godās chosen people. Donāt you let me ever hear you say a word against them,ā Daddy preached.
As the news of the Middle East grew more troubling and the ugliness began spreading in our country, I emailed one of my lifeās most important people. A New York agent who discovered me, then craftily negotiated big contracts for me. Heās Jewish.
Heartbreak drenched a lengthy reply from him which included, āThis is a time of great pain and soul searching for the Jewish people and right-thinking people like yourself.ā
Yes, it is. But remember: Jesus was a Jew.
Happy Easter.
[Ronda Rich is the best-selling author of āSt. Simons Island: A Stella Bankwell Mystery.ā Visit www.rondarich.com to sign up for her weekly newsletter.]

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